Ibn al Qayyim said in Zad al Ma'ad: "As for the weeping of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) it was in the same degree as his laughter. He wouldn't sob loudly and raise his voice. just like his laughter wasn't loud. However his eyes would fill up with tears until they flowed out, and you would hear the sound like that of a whistling kettle coming from his chest. He would weep out of mercy for the dead, out of fear and compassion for his ummah, out of deep fear of Allaah, upon listening to the Qur'an. And this was a weeping of longing, love and exaltation, accompanied by fear and khashyah".
On the authority of 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (RA) who said: "The Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) told me:
"Recite to me!"
So I recited Surahan-Nisa' until I reached: "How will it be then, when We bring from each nation a witness, and bring you (0 Prophet Muhammad) as a witness against these people?" (Q4:41) Then I looked towards him and behold! I saw that his eyes were overflowing with tears" (al Bukhari, Muslim and others)
On the authority of 'Ali (RA) who said: "We did not have a horseman with us on the day of Badr except aI-Miqdad. Everyone amongst us was sleeping except for the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) who was under a tree. praying and weeping until the morning." (Ibn Khuzaymah in his Sahih.)
On the authority of al-Bara ibn 'Azib (RA) who said: "While we were with the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam), he suddenly looked towards a group (of people) and said:
"For what reason have they gathered here?"
It was said, "In order to dig a grave". So the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) became alarmed and startled and he quickly went ahead of the companions until he reached the grave. Then he knelt upon it and I turned my face towards him in order to see what he was doing. He cried until the earth became wet with his tears. Then he turned to us and said. "0 my brothers! prepare for a day like this" (al Bukhari in at-Tarikh, Ibn Majah, Ahmad and others, hasan)
On the authority of 'Abdullaah ibn ash-Shikh-kheer (RA) who said: "I saw the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) praying with us, and I heard the sound of his weeping coming out of his chest, which was like the sound of aboilingpot". (Abu Dawud)
The Path Towards Weeping out of Fear of Allaah
Taqwa of Allaah, diligently working hard to achieve it and being sincere in it. Allaah, the Most High, says in the Qur'an:
"Fear Allaah and Allaah teaches you". (Q2 [Baqarah]:282)
It has been mentioned in Ruh al Ma'ani, "Fear Allaah" in what he has ordered you to do and in what he has forbidden you from. And "Allaah teaches you" His laws, which contain your best interests. And weeping is from that. Allaah, the Most High says:
"As for those who strive hard in Us (our cause), We will surely guide them to our path". (Q29 [AnkabutJ :69).
On the authority of Anas (RA), on the authority of the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) who said:
"Three types of people will find the sweetness of eeman: the one to whom AIlaah and His Messenger are more beloved than anything else, the one who loves another person purely for the sake of AIlaah, and the one who hates to return to disbelief after AIlaah has rescued him from it, just as he would hate to be thrown into the fire". And weeping is included in this sweetness. (Bukhari and Muslim)
Allaah, the Most High. says in the Qur'an:
"Say: Believe in it (i.e. the Qur'an) or do not believe (in it). Verily! Those who were given knowledge before it, when it was recited to them, fell down on their faces in humble prostration, and they say: "Glory be to our Lord! Truly the promise of our Lord must be fulfilled. And they fell down on their faces weeping, and it adds to their humility". (QI7[lsraai]: 107-9)
'Abdul A'ia al-Taymee said with regard to this noble verse:
"Whoever is given knowledge that doesn't make him weep, then clearly he has not been given knowledge that benefits..."
The Remembrance of Death
There is no doubt that death ends the delights and pleasures of this life, just as the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) has told us:
"Increase in your remembrance of the destroyer of aIl pleasures: i.e death. For verily one who remembers it when enduring the hardships of life, it widens for him (i.e he no longer feels overburdened with the hardships he is experiencing). Whenever one remembers it at times of opulence, it will cause him to feel restricted and burdened (i.e he will not be too involved with this life and will start to reflect on the serious and heavy matters awaiting him)." (an-Nasa'i, at-Tlrmidhi - hasan ghareeb, Ibn Majah)
The pleasures are what prevent a tear to be shed, nor any sadness and grief to be felt in the heart. So increase in your remembrance of death, in an attempt to feel the terrors and horrors that will follow it, fearing an evil destination, so that you may succeed with weeping out of fear of Allaah. Indeed this is easy for the one whom Allaah wishes to make it easy for.
On the authority of Ibn 'Umar (RA) who said: "I was with the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) when a man from the Ansaar came up to the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) and greeted him with the salam and then said:
"0 Messenger of AlIaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) which of the believers are the best?" He replied:"Those who are the best in character". Then he asked: "Which of the believers are the most intelligent?" He replied: "Those who remember death the most and those who are best prepared for what comes after it (death). These are the intelligent. ..
Reflecting Upon the Magnificent Qur'an
Allaah, the Most High, says in the Qur'an:
"Do they not think deeply in the Qur'an or are their hearts locked up (from understanding it)?!" (47:24)
Contemplating over the Qur'an is one of the strongest ways of reaching the state of weeping. It is necessary for one to take particular interest over the tafsir of the Qur'an, in continuously seeking help from the scholars and the people of tafsir as much as one can. Read the Qur'an as if it was revealed to you, as some of the scholars have said. An example of this has been established by 'Aisha (RA) when she said: “A man sat in front of the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) and said: "O Messenger of Allaah (sallallahualayhi wa sallam), verily I have slaves, they lie to me, are disloyal to me and disobey me. When I came to know about this, I scold them and beat them. So tell me how have I been with them?"
The Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) replied:
"What they were disloyal to you about, what they disobeyed you in. and what they lied to you about is measured, and the punishment which you inflicted upon them is also measured. If your punishment was equal to their sins. then the scale of balance is equal, it is not for you and nor is it against you. If your punishment to them was not to the extent of their sins (ie less than they deserved) then that is against you".
The man then fell back and began to weep and scream. The Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
"Haven't you read the verse in the Book of AIlaah:
The man replied; "By Allaah, 0 Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa saltam) I do not see anything better for me and them than they leave me, Icall you to witness that all of them are free". (Sunan at Tlrmidhi)
The Fiqh of Weeping Weeping may either be permissible or recommended. It may even be obligatory at other times. One of the times weeping may be permissible is at the loss of someone dear. At such times, shedding tears may be inevitable and these tears are described as Mercy of Allaah on His slaves. Anas bin Malik (RA) narrated: 'We went with Allaah's Messenger (salallaahu alayhi wa sallam) to the blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was the husband of the wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the son of the Prophet [salallahu alayhi wa sallam]).
Allaah's Messenger(salallahu alayhi wa sallam) took Ibrahim and kissed him and smelled him and later we entered Abu Saifs house and at that time Ibrahim was in his last breaths. and the eyes of Allaah'sMessenger(salalahu alayhi wa sallam) started shedding tears.
'Abdur Rahmanbin 'Auf (RA) said.
"O Allaah's Messenger. even you are weeping!" He said, "0 Ibn 'Auf, this is mercy." Then he wept more and said. "The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved. and we will not say except what pleases our Lord. 0 Ibrahim! Indeed we are grieved by your separation." (Bukhari)
Only wailing is prohibited: There is a difference between crying at the time of grieve and wailing. While crying is permissible, wailing which include shouting and other impermissible actions is not.
Narrated Abdullah bin Umar: 'Sad bin 'Ubada (RA) became sick and the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) along with 'Abdur Rahman bin 'Auf, Sad bin Abi Waqqas and 'Abdullah bin Mas'udvisited him to inquire about his health. When he came to him. he found him surrounded by his household and he asked."Has he died?"They said. "No. 0 Allaah's Messenger."
The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) wept and when the people saw the weeping' of Allaah's Messenger (salallahualayhi wa sallam) they all wept. He said. "Will you listen? Allaah does not punish for shedding tears. nor for the grief of the heart but he punishes or bestows His Mercy because of this. "
He pointed to his tongue and added,
"The deceased is punished for the wailing of his relatives over him." '
Umar used to beat with a stick and throw stones and put dust over the faces (of those who used to wail over the dead). (Bukhari)
Weeping at scenes of destroyed nations: It is a requirement of the Shariah that one should elicit tears when he passesby the ruins of destroyed nations. This is one of the times shedding tears may be obligatory. Allaah's Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
"Do not enter (the places) of these people where Allaah’s punishment had fallen unless you do so weeping. If you do not weep. do not enter (the places of these people) because Allaah's curse and punishment which fell upon them may fal/ upon you." (Bukhari)
Does Weeping Nullify Salaat? Weeping in salaat is divided into two types: weeping from the fear of Allaahand weeping asa result of extraneous reason. As for weeping out of the fear of Allaah, hope for His mercies, feeling of love for Him during salaat, this is permissible and does not nullify salaat. Mutarrif bin Abdullah bin Shikhkhir from his father who said, "I saw Allaah's Messenger when he was engaged in prayer, and heard a sound from his chest, like the bubbling of a pot, from weeping."(lbn Hibban)
However regarding weeping during solaat from extraneous factors, for instance. being informed of the death of a loved one during salaat, there is a difference of opinion. An opinion says weeping in such circumstance invalidates the salaat. (Subul usSalam)
However. the more correct opinion is that it does not invalidate salaat because the weeping did not occur by the choice of the person. (Sharh Mumti)
Does Weeping Invalidate Fasting?
If one weeps during the day of fasting and the tears rolled down into his mouth, does it vitiate his fast if he swallows it? The most correct opinion is that it does not nullify one's fasting. And Allaah knows best!
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limite