Of the etiquette of duaa is that a person implores Allaah, and beseeches Him. This sense of urgency is demonstrated in the Sunnah of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam). Aishah (RA) reported that when the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) was afflicted with magic, he made duaa, then he made duaa, then he made duaa. This incident demonstrates a sense of urgency and insistence that is needed while making duaa.
Additionally, we find this same characteristic in many of the duaas that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) used to make. For example, he would pray: "O Allaah! Forgive me all (my sins) that I have already done, and will do (in the future), and what I have done in private, and what I have done in public, and all (sins) that you know from me." (Muslim) Now, it was possible to just say, Forgive all my sins, and the meaning would have been the same.
However, in this beautiful prophetic duaa, there is a strong sense of urgency of imploring Allaah, and beseeching Him, of pleading to Him, and insisting on this forgiveness. All of this is not conveyed in the simple phrase, Forgive my sins Anas ibn Malik (RA) narrated that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "When one of you makes a duaa then let him be firm and determined in his duaa, and let him not say, O Allaah! If You will, then please forgive me, for there is no one who can force Allaah to do anything". (Bukhari) Therefore, what is desired is that a person be firm in his duaa, asking from Allaah in a determined manner.
If on the other hand, a person says,"O Allaah! Grant me my duaa if You wish", this goes against the firmness and resolution that is desired, for it is as if he is saying, "O Allaah! If You answer my duaa, then I thank You, otherwise I do not ask You of it". This shows a degree of arrogance towards Allaah , all Glory and Praise be to Him, and implies a sense of self-sufficiency on the part of the person making the duaa.
A person is always in need of Allaah’s help and aid, and as such should always ask of Allaah in a manner that shows his poverty for Allaah’s support. It should be pointed out that it is allowed to use this phrase when the person does not know if the matter he is asking for is for his good or not. So, it is permissible to pray: O Allaah! If you know that such-and such a matter (related to this world) is good for me, then grant it to me. What is prohibited is to use this phrase in matters that one needs without a doubt, such as Allaah’s Forgiveness, or Mercy, or Blessings, etc
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited