QUESTION: I want to ask about the punishment on someone who has disobeyed or sought the anger of his parents, I ask because some children do indulge themselves in such acts as a result of maturity and they also believe that they have gone beyond the control of their parents.
RESPONSE: Alhamdulillah - The praise is for Allaah and may His peace and blessing be upon the Prophet. Allaah has made our parents, the vessels of our coming to this life by His permission . ln it He has not given us a choice as to who we want our parents to be or from where, and He has made each of us a trial to the other, in order to see how we will act. He the Most Exalted, has also made, obedience to them Obligatory, He has decreed that the child must be dutiful to his parents and treat them well especially in their old age, Allaah says: "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life" say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say, "My Lord! Bestow on them your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young." (Israa [17): 23-24).
It was reported from Abdullah bin Abbaas (RA.) that he said Three verses descended accompanied, by three other things one will not be accepted except when it is accompanied by its second, The first one is the statement of Allaah: "Obey Allaah and the Messenger." So the actions of whoever obeys Allaah but disobeys the Messenger will not be accepted, The second is: And establish the salaah and pay the Zakaah." So whoever prays while not paying the Zakaah though he has the means, it will not be accepted from him, The third is the statement of Allaah: "And give thanks to me and to your parents." So whoever thanks Allaah but he is not grateful to his parents, this will not be accepted from him." (AI- Kabair)
It follows that none will seek the anger of his parents even if they are unbelievers while he is a Muslim except the one who is unaware of the loss in good deeds that he will encounter and the calamity that will befall him. Disobeying the parents is a great sin and the rewards for every great sin thats unrepented from is the fire of hell except as Allaah wills, The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessing be upon him) said: "Shall I not inform you of the greatest of the great Sins? (They are) associating partners with Allaah and disobeying the parents." (Muslim)
As a believing youth, the service to your parents especially your mother is part of righteousness and righteousness leads to paradise, The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessing be upon him) said: "Allaah has forbidden for you disobedience to your mothers," (Muslim) And `The paradise is under the feet of mothers.; (Al-Hakeem), Abdullah (RA) narrated that he asked the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him): "What deed is most beloved to Allaah?" He (peace and blessing be upon him) said: "Being dutiful to the parents, Then Jihad in the way of Allaah" (Bukhari)
The Muslim youth should not disregard his parents because he has attaining maturity, These are acts that should not be found in a believer. And certainly you can never repay the good deeds done by the parents except if you liberate them from slavery, The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) said: child has not fulfilled all of his responsibilities to his father unless he found him as a slave, bought him and set him free." (Muslim)
However, you should note that obedience is only in that which is not contrary to the dictates of Allaah and the practice of His Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him), Allaah says: "But if your parents strive and argue with you to make you join in worship with me others of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave and accompany them in this world with kindness;" (Luqmaan [31): 15), The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessing be upon him) said: "Obedience is in what is good and proper" (Muslim) Also, he said; "There is no obedience to the created things in a matter involving disobedience to the ; creator-Allaah. (Muslim)
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited