The rights of your parents

Honour Your Parents

To honour the parents is the command of Allaah: "We have instructed man to honour his parents." (Q29[Ankabut]:8)The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) also said: "The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent. " (Adab Mufrad) The gravity of this statement is further understood when one realizes that kindness to parent comes next only to such important pillar of Islam as salaat. Abdullah ibn Masud (RA) said, "I asked the Prophet, (salallahu alayhi wa sallam), which action Allaah loves best. He replied, Prayer at its proper time. Then what? I asked. He said, Then kindness to parents." I asked, Then what? He replied, Then jihad in the Way of Allah. " (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Especially Your Mother

Ata ibn Yasar reported that a man came to Ibn Abbas (RA) and said, "I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?" He asked, "Is your mother alive?" "No," he replied. He said, "Repent to Allaah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can." Ata said, "I went to Ibn Abbas and asked him, Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive? He replied, I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allaah than dutifulness to his mother." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Even If They Are Unjust To You

Ibn Abbas (RA) said, "If any Muslim obeys Allaah regarding his parents, Allaah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allaah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him." He was asked, "Even if they wrong him?" "Even if they wrong him", he replied. (Saheeh Adab Mufrad) Say Gentle Words to Them Taysala ibn Mayyas said, "I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn Umar. He inquired, what are they?" I replied, Such-and-such. He stated, these are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong actions. They are: associating others with Allaah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphans property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing ones parents to weep through disobedience. Ibn Umar then said to me, Do you wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Do you want to enter the Paradise? By Allaah, yes! I replied. He asked, are your parents still alive? I replied, my mother is said by Allaah, if you speak gently to her and feed her, then you will enter the Paradise as long as you avoid the major wrong actions. " (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Do not Curse Them

Ali ibn Abi Talib (RA) said: The Messengerof Allaah, (salallahu alayhiwa sallam) did not give me anything special which he did not give to everyone else except for what I have in my sword scabbard. He brought out a piece of paper. Written on that paper was Allaah curses anyone who sacrifices an animal to something other than Allaah. Allaah curses anyone who steals a milestone. Allaah curses anyone who curses his parents. Allaah curses enyone who gives shelter to an innovator." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Do Not Fail Them

Abu Hurayra (RA) reported that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said,"Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!" They said, "Messenger of Allaah, who?" He said, "The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire. "(Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Do Not Disrespect Them

Abu Hurayra (RA) saw two men and said to one of them, "Who is this man in relation to you?" He is my father," he replied. He said, "Do not call him by his own name nor walk in front of him nor sit down before him." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad) ...Nor Those Like Them , Abdullah ibn Amr (RA) said that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) "Reviling ones parents is one of the great wrong actions." They asked, "How could he revile them?" He said, "He reviles a man who then in tum reviles his parents.(Saheeh Adab Mufrad) Even If They Are Idolaters Asma bint Abi Bakr (RA) said, "In the time of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam), Do I have to treat her well? Yes, he replied." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

After Their Death ... Four Things: Abu Usayd said, "We were with the Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) when a man asked, Messenger of Allah, is there any act of dutifulness which I can do for my parents after their death? He replied,Yes. There are four things: Supplication for them, asking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friends of theirs. You only have ties of kinship through your parents." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Sadaqah: Ibn Abbas (RA) reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allaah, my mother died without a will. Will it help her if I give sadaqa on her behalf?" "Yes," he replied. (Saheeh Adab Mufrad) Keep Relations: Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) reported that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, Maintain what your father loved. Do not cut it off so that Allaah puts out your light." He also said: "The strongest form of dutifulness is when a man maintains relations with the people his father loved. " (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Can One Ever Repay The Parents?

Abu Hurayra (RA) reported that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, A child cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and then buys him and sets him free. " Said ibn Abi Burda said, "I heard my father say that Ibn Umar saw a Yamani man going around the House (Kaabah) while carrying his mother on his back, saying, I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened, I am not frightened.Then he asked, Ibn Umar, do you think that I have repaid her? He replied, No, not even for a single groan (of the pain of birth). (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

Beware of the Limits.

No Disobedience To Allaah: Allaah says: "But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly." (Q31[Luqman]:15) No Forgiveness For Idolaters: Allaah says: It is not right for the Prophet and those who have Iman to ask forgiveness for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire. (Q9:113)" (Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

It Has Benefits Long Life: Muadh (RA) said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allaah will prolong his life." (Saheeh Adab Mufrad) Supplication Of Parents Is Never Rejected: Abu Hurayra (RA) reported that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of, someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children. "(Saheeh Adab Mufrad)

The Punishment For Disobeying Parents: Abu Bakra (RA) reported that the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "There is no wrong action more likely to bring punishment in this world in addition to what is stored up in the next world than oppression and severing ties of kinship. "(Saheeh Adab Mufrad)



This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited


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