Having children is a desire that every normal person has. When a child delays or fails to come, it is a source of worry for the couple, their families and friends. Dealing with a situation of childlessness is a stress on the couples emotions. How do you cope with childlessness! This is the concern of these eight pages of cover. Being born alive is a blessing of Allaah. Consider that you were placed in your mothers womb along with millions of other individual sperm cells.
By Allaah's design, it was your own sperm cell that eventually made it. Yet, there is even a greater blessing,which is the blessing of being able to have a child of your own.To have ones own child[children] is a universal desire. For the Muslims, the desire to have children also stems from the desire to fulfill a religious obligation. Allaah says: "So now have sexual relations with them and seek that which Allaah has ordained for you (offspring)" (Q2 [Baqarah]: 187). The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) also emphasized procreation as a major goal of marriage. Maqil bin Yasar (RA) reported that a man came to Allaahs Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) and said, "I have encountered a woman of honour and beauty, but she cannot bear children. Should I marry her?" He said, "No!" After asking him two or more times, Allaahs Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "Marry the woman who is loving and can bear many children, because I will boast of your numbers (on the Day of Resurrection)." (Abu Dawud)
The dream of having a child sometimes could become a nightmare.A delay in becoming a parent can engender painful and difficult emotions. Such emotions are common to all human beings, regardless of status. Prophet Zakariyyah (alayhis salaam) was not absolved of such emotions for he cried out to Allaah in his old age: "O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. Youare indeed the All-Hearer of duaa." (Q3[Aal-Imran]:38)
But why cant everybody have his or her own child?Why is having a baby not as easy as having intercourse? What wisdom is there that the one who apparently doesnt want a child is given while the one who craves for this bundle of joy is denied? These and many more are some of the difficult and painful questions childless individuals turn in their minds. If they are not handled properly, eeman (faith) may be affected.
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited