Aaishah (RA) said: "The Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "When Allaah. The Almighty, wills some good towards the people of a household. He introduces kindness among them. "(Ahmad) According to another report: "When Allaah loves the people of a household. He introduces kindness among them." (lbn Abu Ad-Dunyaa)
In other words, they start to be kind to one another. This is one of the means of attaining happiness at home, for kindness is very beneficial between the spouses, and with the children, and it brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness. as the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "Allaah loves kindness and rewards for it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else. " (Muslim)
Helping the wife with the housework: Many men think that housework is beneath them, and some of them think that it will undermine their status and position if they help their wives with this work. The Messenger of Allaah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) however, used to "sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes." (Ahmad)
That was is how Aaishah (RA) responded when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allaah used to do in his house; she described what she herself had seen. According to another report, she said: "He was like any other human being; he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself." (Ahmad) She was also asked about what the Messenger of Allaah used to do in his house, and she said, "He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray." (Al-Bukhaari)
If the Muslim men were to do likewise nowadays, they would achieve three things:
1. We would be following the example of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam).
2. We would be helping our wives.
3. We would feel more humble and down to earth. These narrations should act as a reminder to those men, who demand food instantly from their wives, when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed; they do not.
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited